Hadley Vlahos is a nurse and a very popular TikToker, which is how I found her. A hospice nurse, she shares stories of what she's learned from her patients and demystifies the hospice process for her viewers. In The In-Between she writes about her experiences and the patients who have had the most impact on her.
We read about Sandra, the woman who lives in a gorgeous mansion who is dying of breast cancer, and of Albert, the man living in a tent under a bridge with kidney failure. We meet Reggie, a man with liver disease caused by a lifetime of alcohol abuse, and Elizabeth, a young yoga teacher with lung cancer despite never smoking a day in her life. There is a patient with dementia, one with skin cancer, one with heart disease, and two with brain cancer. We meet patients with lots of loving family to care for them and some with only one or none. Some of her patients are happy to receive her help and others don't see the point of her. Some she spends days or weeks caring for, and others only a few hours.
What does a "good death" look like to you? Hadley leads her readers to find those answers for themselves while giving some insight into the process of dying that some people may not have experienced. She's very young for a hospice nurse, a profession that typically attracts nurses looking for a change of pace after years in other nursing fields, but she falls in love with the connections she is able to make with her patients and the good she can do at one of the most important moments of their lives.
This book was very sad. And it was also sweet, and heartwarming, and comforting. Of course I cried. When don't I? But they were good tears. Hadley tells her stories in a very uplifting way that inspires hope.
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